We are a big tent… a really big tent. There are misties of all stripes and walks of life; the point is that we are all included in this forum. Part of inclusivity is respecting other people. I’ve noticed that some folks are managing to be disrespectful in easily avoidable ways. I’m puttin’ on my Judgement Hat, that is rude!
I don’t care what your political, religious, moral, or other concerns are, there is no call to ever make someone feel badly for things they cannot change about themselves. If you don’t understand them, or you think it is a choice, or you think they are sinners, whatever, that’s your business. THEY are the ones who get to tell you their truth; questioning their word is rude. You don’t have to like who or what they are, you don’t have to believe in it, but you do need to respect them or you are being rude.
I’ve been seeing a bunch of side-long, passive-aggressive comments about politics and social issues on here lately. I feel some people are taking advantage of our collective desire to be fair to everyone and apolitical… keeping the trolling light may keep you off the mods’ radar, but it is still trolling. Using code words or euphemisms doesn’t change that. Provoking someone into breaking the rules or getting a slap on the wrist may feel like a victory to you, but it is only to you. This forum isn’t about ‘owning’ anyone. That is not participating in our community in good faith, it is being deliberately rude.
But, you say, why do I have to be careful what I say, I have freedom of speech?! Well, part of being in a society is surrendering some of your rights for the collective good. Heck, part of being an adult is controlling your tongue. I’m sorry you can’t be a jerk to people who are different from you, but that’s not good for our community. You know full well what you are doing, and it is rude.
And for those of you who don’t think you should have to consider the impact of your words on others, those who don’t see a need to be kind to their fellow man… that is definitely your right. Now please go away, because I have no time for your rudeness.
Judgement Hat out!
… sitting back and waiting for the chorus of “I don’t think it is so bad” and “you’re over-reacting,” or maybe, if I’m lucky, “you are blowing one isolated incident out of proportion” (I have no particular incident in mind).